Healthy Ways to Manage Your Anger
Everyone has experienced anger, whether as a fleeting annoyance or a full-fledged rage. It is a natural response to when you feel hurt, rejected, threatened, and in pain. Anger thus temporarily protects you from having to recognize and deal with painful feelings. But it can lead to an unpleasant feeling when not managed appropriately. Unmanaged anger can result in a volatile and destructive emotion not only for you but the people whom you care deeply about.
Anger is a completely normal and usually healthy emotion. Many seem to wear anger like a symbol of power and self-enhancing booster: which it isn’t. When you make it a refuge from fright and vulnerability, it can lead to problems. Anger will be deeply rooted as part of your identity. There is a thin line that separates someone who is blinded by anger and someone who believes in right from wrong. This line is nearly impossible to see that you tend to cross from time to time. And you’ll find yourself at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Anger may be an emotion that we cannot evade, but the truth is that life is so much more beautiful when we learn to succumb to it. There will undoubtedly be times when things won’t go your way when people disappoint you when they go against your values, and there will be more unexpected circumstances that will stir this strong emotion within you. Yes, there will always be these times, but you should not allow anger to affect your life or impact your decisions.
Become a person who never lets anger ruin valued moments and relationships. Never let it sit in your heart; instead, rise above it and choose love over anything else. Thus, live a life with renewed eyes and a renewed heart by following these simple steps.
Express Your Anger
First up, anger isn’t necessarily a “bad” emotion. It actually helps you be more honest or stand up for when you are taken advantage of. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with feeling angry. Expressing your anger prevents it from bubbling up inside. However, it’s another thing when you start hurting other people. Anger is like a power outage for the thinking part of your brain. If you allow it to control you, you will end up with angry outbursts that won’t do any favors. Anger should not be expressed through lashing out at every person that irritates you.
Waiting in long lines under the heat of the sun, dealing with snide remarks from other people, having stuck in traffic, and you’re already running late are some of the daily annoyances that can be upsetting. This can turn you into a ball of rage and frustration. So, look into the triggers to have better control over your anger. Once you’re more aware of what they are, you can take action to avoid falling prey to anger once again. If you’re not sure of the triggers, take a moment to notice what you’re feeling and thinking. It could be another emotion—maybe one of fear or loneliness. It can also be because of an unpleasant thought that came to mind or a triggering conversation.
Release All Grudges
With pain comes anger. Time would come where people will disappoint and hurt you even if you loved them unconditionally. Dwelling on the hurtful events or wallowing in pain can fill your heart with grudges, resentment, vengeance, and hostility. If you allow bitterness to crowd you, you’ll find yourself swallowed with anger. Forgive those who have sinned you, and you might be able to let go of grudges resulting from anger. Releasing your grudge means letting go of your pain. Dr. Arline Westmeier’s Healing the Wounded Soul is a must-read to help open your eyes to the truth of pain and anger, and heal old wounds. Dr. Westmeier’s book on Closing Open Doors will help you decide to let go of anger through God and not let it rule your entire life.
Seek the Help You Need
Again, it’s totally normal and healthy to feel upset and angry from time to time. Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. But if you have continuous anger outbursts and you’re constantly overwhelmed by anger, it might be time to ask for help. Some signs that you need help are: when you’re physically and verbally abusing other people, and your temper is causing problems with your personal life.