Moving On From Painful Past: 5 Ways to Let Go
Letting go is something that many people have a difficult time doing. Every time a thing gets in the way or plans change, which is an inevitable part of life, you have no other choice; you move on unless you want it to take over your life. If you feel like something or someone is bad for you but you still can’t get over it, this blog is for you.
Do you ever feel like you are helpless and that every day is a struggle for you? Every minute is just full of upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety. This will make you disconnected from the real world. This is often caused by traumatic experiences. Experiences that have messed up your emotional, spiritual, and mental health, which could lead to a much more serious case — depression. Depression should be taken seriously because it increases many risks of other health aspects, even physical health. Thus, when you ever feel like you are experiencing something that can cause these, it would be best if you end it right away. Letting go is one of the first few steps.
Dr. Arline Westmeier has published a series of books that can help you with this. Healing the Wounded Soul has four volumes that target different factors of healing the soul. This book will give you the motivation that you need to move on from your past traumas. It will make you free from all the unnecessary pain you have. You can also learn some biblical insights about spiritual insights. Somehow, after you finish reading it, you will gain enough wisdom for you to spread to other people. In the meantime, here is an overview you must learn about letting go of your painful past:
An open and honest validation. Getting to truly accept yourself is the biggest commitment one can make. It is the only way for you to fully accept and live life. To sell wellness, physically, physiologically, and spiritually is the first step to making this possible. You must be able to have the willingness to make this happen. Once you have established self-love, you will have more respect for yourself. You will identify what matters to you.
Don’t Be Afraid to Talk About It
You may have your own reasons why you don’t talk about your struggles. But still, releasing and expressing your thoughts to other people is still the best therapy you could have. You need to be receptive to opening up or else, you will only make your mental state fight-or-flight, which can lead to stress. Don’t be afraid to seek professional help especially if you feel like you have been in the same state for longer than a month.
Allow Yourself to Forgive
The most effective way to move on is by allowing yourself to forgive and accept. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy, and compassion. Holding onto resentment can sour you and keep you from finding peace. When you can’t forgive, your emotional wounds can’t close and heal. Thus, in the process of healing and transformation, forgiveness is one of the major elements.
Cut-Off Toxic Things and People
Identifying what and who really matters in your life will give you peace of mind. It will make you have more control over your emotions. Thus, cutting off people and things that you think are bad for you is essential if you are longing for growth. Establish and maintain boundaries between you and those manipulative and toxic people in your life.
Understand Your Emotions
As mentioned in the previous point, you should remove toxic relationships. For you to do this, you need to have power over your emotions. One thing you can do is to aim for regulation and not for repression. In a way, emotions are like energy waves, varying in shape and intensity, just like ocean waves. Their nature is to arise and pass away pretty quickly. Understanding them better will give you more control over it.
All in all, there is importance of making moving on and letting go of the past trauma. It gives way for you to have an amazing future ahead of you.